A wonderful first blog, Rachel, which I have already shared with a friend. I agree that connection with friends, family and community - and asking for time, help and support - is what keeps us human and, ultimately, protects us from dependency on corporations and pacification through digital (soon to be AI-generated) experiences.
Thank you for a better expression of my thoughts (and behaviour). I evaluate my friendships from time to time and when it looks like I'm always talking about my issues and I'm the one on the receiving end of the sympathy and care, it begins to feel less like a friendship and I feel more like a parasite that's just draining all the life out of someone else. I fix it when I can but when I am unable to, I begin to slowly step back, mentally and emotionally until I can find a balance again.
No matter what anyone says, it's wrong for one person to be doing all the giving.
Self-evaluation and correction is a priority that I wish far more people had. Sometimes I think when we are disappointed in ourselves we ignore it instead of correcting because that's easiest, but in my experience it always bubbles back up but unproductively. If we are going to be unhappy with ourselves anyway where we let others down, I think it's far better to stay engaged, correct and keep growing.
We have to care for those we love, and view strangers as people we could love, I think. Thank you so much for engaging with me, I'm glad it encapsulated something for you.
This is something I’ve noticed more and more especially in the last decade. We have de normalised relying on each other, simply expressing or sometimes full on crying to people around us. We pathologised the very basic human need of sharing and being heard. Everyone’s experienced something along the lines of ‘no one was there for me so I won’t be there for you’, feeding into this cycle of division and misery. It’s intensity detrimental to society as a whole but genuinely I am at a loss for how to escape it
A wonderful first blog, Rachel, which I have already shared with a friend. I agree that connection with friends, family and community - and asking for time, help and support - is what keeps us human and, ultimately, protects us from dependency on corporations and pacification through digital (soon to be AI-generated) experiences.
David - thank you so much for sharing both with others and with me. Community is everything.
Honestly, one of the best truths I’ve read on here for a while. Thank you.
I cried reading this. Thank you Rachel.
xoxoxoxoxoXO
Thank you for a better expression of my thoughts (and behaviour). I evaluate my friendships from time to time and when it looks like I'm always talking about my issues and I'm the one on the receiving end of the sympathy and care, it begins to feel less like a friendship and I feel more like a parasite that's just draining all the life out of someone else. I fix it when I can but when I am unable to, I begin to slowly step back, mentally and emotionally until I can find a balance again.
No matter what anyone says, it's wrong for one person to be doing all the giving.
Self-evaluation and correction is a priority that I wish far more people had. Sometimes I think when we are disappointed in ourselves we ignore it instead of correcting because that's easiest, but in my experience it always bubbles back up but unproductively. If we are going to be unhappy with ourselves anyway where we let others down, I think it's far better to stay engaged, correct and keep growing.
We have to care for those we love, and view strangers as people we could love, I think. Thank you so much for engaging with me, I'm glad it encapsulated something for you.
This is something I’ve noticed more and more especially in the last decade. We have de normalised relying on each other, simply expressing or sometimes full on crying to people around us. We pathologised the very basic human need of sharing and being heard. Everyone’s experienced something along the lines of ‘no one was there for me so I won’t be there for you’, feeding into this cycle of division and misery. It’s intensity detrimental to society as a whole but genuinely I am at a loss for how to escape it
this is so beautiful, made me want to call my friends and ask how they're doing :)
this is the greatest compliment
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